Women may actually moan during sex because they're bored or late for work, according to a study. (Shutterstock)
Attention moaners:
I’m not talking about the porn stars paid to voice their pleasure on camera. That’s their job. I’m talking to the ladies who wake up the neighbours with their high-pitched oohs and aahs. Heavy panting so loud passersby wonder if they should call an ambulance.
I gotta ask. Is he really hurting you? Or are you just havin’ a real, real good time? Hell, maybe I’m a little jealous and it’s probably none of my business. But isn’t it a little much?
It reminds me of when I woke up to porn-esque noises from the hotel room next to me when I was in Thailand in January.
As I laid in bed with a pillow over my head — her continuous screams of pleasure only slightly muffled — I contemplated why she was being so obnoxious. Now there’s nothing wrong with a little morning nookie. But I don’t wanna hear some random couple doin’ it at 5 a.m. while I’m nursing a Singha hangover.
This wasn’t a one-off thing.
Another time I was waiting for the elevator to check out at Toronto’s Royal York Hotel when I heard loud moans from a room down the hall. I guess that’s what you call a high nooner.
Why do they feel the need to let the world know they’re doing the nasty? Is he that well-endowed?
Interestingly, these women may have been moaning for good reason. They might have been late for a flight or even bored.
In a U.K. study, about 66% of women said they moan to speed up their man’s climax due to discomfort or pain, boredom, fatigue or a lack of time.
Researchers found women who moan, breathe heavy and dirty talk while doing the deed likely isn’t because they’re getting off. They’re actually making sex noises to coax their partner into orgasm, according to a study from the University of Central Lancashire and the University of Leeds.
In the study with 71 straight women, ages 18 to 48, the researchers asked them when they made sounds while having sex.
The women said they were most likely to make sex noises more often before and while the man ejaculated. Not while they climaxed.
I’d hate to hear them when they’re actually getting off.
Guess I’d better get some earplugs.
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Sometimes we get bored with woman during sex because some just lay there and don’t do anything
HaHa!
I think I agree with Jeff’s comment!
Thank God that I am Deaf!
@ Jeff. Amen. I can’t stand women who just lie there. Is it possible you feel nothing or are you still trapped in some 50′s Church guilt? Then again, bullshit moaning bothers me just as much and trust me I just tell the girl if she wants something quick or long and I’ll accomodate for myself.
And some women get bored because their male partners think that everything they’re doing is just out of this world when in reality it has everything to do with pleasing themselves and not doing things that bring a woman to climax.
Enough with the comeback (no pun intended!)… Communication is key in a relationship, wether someone is bored in bed or with everyday things in a relationship. I would also like to point out that some women do really enjoy sex because they are comfortable with themselves, their body image, their wants/needs, and with their partner. And they moan because they are having fun and sometimes don’t even notice the noises they are making because they are really into it!!!!
Maybe the focus should now be moved onto figuring out why so many women feel the need to get out of a “boring” situation by moaning and groaning instead of just being real and saying “This isn’t working for me!” and together with their partner figuring out what would bring them both over the edge.
Some men can’t accept they they aren’t “all that and more!” and their feelings might get hurt and they may pout – but so what? Get over it or get out. And some men might not even realize their partner isn’t as into it (if your partner seemed into it and wasn’t saying otherwise, what would you think?) and would welcome more direction and be happy to oblige!
Ladies, if you are doing this, why waste precious time that you will never get back by faking it? Why not open the lines of communication – the results could be exactly what you are looking for ; )
I don’t agree about the dirty talk, my man likes it and I don’t mind it. So I do it for him for his enjoyment which means I enjoying myself even more. Give alittle get alittle.
I agree with Jeff. I get bored when they lie there like a plank of plywood. Talk about mood killer.
Interesting ..I’m sure there is much truth in what you say. I also find it interesting that you quote a study that was done in the UK, a nationality that is reputed to be physically undemonstrative. Anyway …thanks for the insight , I’ll ask my girlfriend and get her take on the story.
yep that is true. Mine have moaned though pretty much BECAUSE they are getting off in the moment. Just because they might not climax doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel good.
^ here here!!
I found that as the orgasms multiply the sounds also diminish along with other things.
And the author of this story barks. Girl, you need to get in strong loving relationship.
As a woman, I find this whole article offensive and highly irritating. Mostly for the fact that my husband read the article and questioned me about my moans during sex and what they meant. It put the direct implication into every sexual relationship that a woman’s noises and reactions to the act are fraudulent. I don’t care about the amount of people questioned and the percentage that said they lie on a regular basis, it puts EVERY woman under the microscope.
Personally, I do it because it feels good and I want my partner to know, but I’m not getting paid like a pornstar, so I don’t put the emphasis in there. It was enough of an article to catch my attention, think about it for a moment and I would have probably forgotten about it IF I had not been questioned.
I think the University of Central Lancashire and the University of Leeds should have redirected their study funding into something that would make the world a better place. And I think it was insensitive and offensive that it was a woman that posted this article.
I’m indifferent regarding the moaning… It’s the nails clawing at your back, shoulders, biceps, the sheet being pulled at etc… that’s what tells me I’m doing the “right stuff”! And if the woman’s name is Naomi, so you know, that is “I moan” spelled backwards…!
I can only judge based upon my own sexual interactions and I know for fact, the ones who did scream were not faking it. When they lay with legs twitching on the bed afterwards talking about how that was the best orgasm they have ever had…….I knew it was genuine.
Would be nice to have this study done in north America. It’s funny that the writer who is a a north American would use UK as a reference to this article. It is clearly a biased one sided point view. Not liking this article at all as it is lacking of facts.
Oh Mike Nike, you still have lots to learn…
Leg twitching is pretty easy to fake as well…
The moaning thing is I wann say 90% true.
I moan to help my boyfriend get in the mood, I like that it turns him on.
I know that when Im about to have an orgasm, Im quiet.
Orgasms are not as easy for women as they are for men, it takes a lot of effort to get there! So, men, if your lady isnt making much noise, you know you got it down!
Mike maybe they’re twitching because of a seizure or worse they are having withdrawls. Not all is what it seems:)
Doesn’t penis stand for Please Ejaculate Now, I’m Sleepy?
OMG! What is with you guys who are blaming her for not moaning??? Sounds like you’re doing something wrong!! What’s worse is the fact that you’re actually voicing this publicly!! Try asking what she’d like for a change…?
This is pur BS! I never moan cause I am bored, I do cause I’m having fun!!!!
If I am not having fun I will definitely let my partner know.
It all comes down to communication.
Sex is about feeling closer to someone and enjoy the good time together. It is about having fun and pleasing each other.
If the guy wonder if her moaning is cause she is bored, maybe he should ask what she likes. Listen to the body and ask when you are unsure instead of assuming everything you are doing is right.
and fyi, twitching is very normal if the orgasim was intense and the body is only reacting to the shock of things so intense so fast.
an orgasim equal a small seizure. that is why people want to sleep after. all seizures are different, so as all orgasims are different.
i find women generally have their own agenda and using sex as weapon to get what they want. if i need sex i go to a massage parlour and pay its better because i dont have to feel obligated to give her my stuff or do 10times more work just for sex. women have been doing this for centuries and thats why men dont generally live longer than women . so for men open your eyes, you could be sleeping with someone who plans your demise.
I have NEVER fake moaned! I moan because I am enjoying it and I can make a lot of noise up to and during orgasm (although not always pretty noises but I can’t help it lol!). I am doing what comes natural for me. To the men who hate it when women lay there – have you ever thought they maybe aren’t getting pleasured by you? Maybe you are so wrapped up in your own pleasure you don’t realize she needs more stimulate that just your penis? At least in missionary, her clitoris may get some friction from your body (or her hands) but when we face away there isn’t any. If you want your ladies to enjoy other positions, then give them a reason to enjoy it. Either use your hands to GENTLY pleasure her or encourage her to do it herself. Like another poster said, communicate with each other to ensure there is satisfaction on both sides!!
It’s always about “her” isn’t it…
I think it is hilarious that men are actually refuting this article because it was done in the UK. As if you have a clue what is going on in a woman’s head. Please. I agree with the article but women need to realize that this is a disservice only to themselves. You will never get what you want unless you speak up. Giving men a false sense doesn’t help. On the other hand I know men can be persistent and sometimes you just want to get it over with so you can go back to whatever you were doing, i.e. sleeping or watching tv.
I’m a gay male, and I hate when my partner turns into an Ironing Board. The 2×4 is not sexy, and as far as moaning goes – if I am playing the rusty trombone I expect some accompaniment – a trumpet, or french horn.
At AnnonymousLady says:
Please. No man on earth has a clue what’s going on in a women’s head, during sex or otherwise. Moan on…
I understand Kristy. During many years I had to support my downstairs neighbor who screamed moaned ground and did all the noise possible for 20 long long years…i remember talking to my ex husband (when we were happily married) about that and settled that she was exagerating. It irritated me to hear her every single f…in night and not once but more than twice or even times…uuuuuntiiiiiiiillllll I found the love of my life…and I now admit with a big smile that that wasnt exagerated. I dont think all exagerat. I personally am ashamed of my screams and i swear i try to control but …. Kristy, yes, it happens in some couples. I found him and would never give him up because we love eachother since kids (he was my first boyfriend). all those years of really boring sex and now … I can’t believe this is happening to me. I really really cant control, i try , i even ask him to make me stop but he only gets worst. Anyways, keep on looking for the man of your life that treats you like a princess and give you all. They exist , he can’t be the only one.
Good luck
Don’t get me wrong i like men but they can be boring during sex.
If we don’t make noises, they have an attitude all day because their self esteeme is base on climax.
If the woman is just lying there not doing anything…it’s possible what you are doing isn’t pleasing her at all. If you are not getting a good reaction, it wouldn’t hurt to ask what she likes.
It would never hurt to ask your partner if what you are doing is pleasurable for them. If you have a good loving relationship, then you should be able to trust their answer…and ask them what they like. Then do it. There may be times they do something because they know you enjoy it, even if it doesn’t necessarily turn their crank. You should be able to return the favour.
well im just a heavy breather i dnt scream maybe the odd moan depending on the position im in really but when i orgasm my whole bodygoes stiff and tight and i will clamp my legs around my partner and also my vagina clamps to untilit over then i just melt but thts me so if my partner dnt realise tht im orgasmic then he daft plus u can guarentee i will thank you with a passionate kiss and normally pound bk