Wednesday, October 22, 2014
A few clouds
LONDON GOLD BUYER
I’ve posted my latest column.
One of the startling revelations: When I was a kid, my parents would discipline me with a hairbrush.
Feel free to add stories from own childhood below!
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Always remember when discussing your parents and family life
that parenthood was not always a choice, it just came with achieving
one’s M.R.S. [Mandatory by 30 or one's own mother was a failure...]
But everything changed in the mid 1960s when the Pill-liberated North
American housewives – some appalled at how the self-centred first
wave of Baby Boom generation now reaching their teems and 20s –
and said enough is enough. Choice !
It certainly coloured our ideas of childraising, corporal discipline not
uncommon although not generally the old-fashioned hairbrush, just
a good whack with the hand on the bottom. Blatz and Spock be damned.
Just consider, parents raised in the days when the ambition of male
youth was to learn to fly an aeroplane, be a war hero – and finding
Boomer boys in the neighbourhood’s only ambition to strum on a
cheap guitar screaming dirty words !
It’s a wonder more of yuu weren’t abandoned on the church steps
so Mummy could get out and have a life of her own despite being a
If discipline couldn’t “wait until your father gets home and hears about this!, which would generally entail a triatribe of threats about being horsewhipped behind the barn, (we didn’t have a whip or a barn) my mom would shake the living daylights out of me while asking, as my head bobbled back and forth, what the devil’s gotten into you…or sometimes I’d witness my older brother get a knuckle rapping with the wooden spoon for not using proper table manners. I had good table manners because I didn’t want my knuckles wrapped.
In this day & age you don’t need to know how to parent, you need to know how to co-parent…remember? How quickly we forget. Jesse Sansone’s family(from Kitchener, Ontario) learned the hard way, as did several hundrend other families this year alone. A good, loving, single father just lost his 2 boys to CAS for being overweight. We no longer are allowed to make decisions for our families. We are no longer able to send our children to school safely. Yet, it’s no longer the ‘stranger’ children have to worry about. No. It’s the teachers/principals/CAS that tell us how to parent. You don’t believe me? Research & you will see how true this is in ‘the Land of the Free’.
I was born in 1971. I remember when my dad threatened us with the belt…but I remember once I turned six he said I was too old to be spanked and will lose privileges. I was surprised by the change in tactics and I began to respect him.
Awful library books, such as “Training Retarded Babies and Pre-Schoolers”, (Linde and Kopp,1973) mentions the merit of using a wooden spoon instead of one’s hand to spank a child with disabilities because it’s ‘less personal’.
A lot has changed, starting with the resources accessible to parents.
However, that book was cutting edge back in the day, it advocated many positive breakthroughs such as not institutionalizing a child with disabilities. Corporal punishment was still the norm in schools and of course the language was politically correct at that point in history.
I came across the book on AwfulLibraryBooks.com.
… “O say does that star-spangled banner yet wave,
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave?”
Further to families of the 60s, at the end of decade Mr Trudeau relaxed the rules
so the Daddies could have their mid-life crises and get away from the burden of
those boom children, find a trophy wife, giving many women an opportunity to
have responsibility for it All – single parenting.
Who else here experienced the dreaded “strap” that London’s finest elementary and secondary school principals (some war heros) administered with abandon and one imagines glee, to all who happened to cross them in the 60′s.
A hair-brush would have been better than the institutionalised sadism and humiliation.of the school’s “strap” or the wooden “Paddle.”
Perhaps along similar lines, it was the hipocracy and brutality of authority that led to the youth rebelliousness of the sixties.
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