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Is it OK to hate Kate?

- January 16th, 2012
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The Duchess of Cambridge has some pretty big fans out there. But is it OK that she also has critics? (Photo: WENN.com)

There are people who are simply in love with the Duchess of Cambridge.

Kate can do no wrong in their eyes — her hair is perfect, her fashion sense is impeccable, her life is a fairytale — and anyone who criticizes her is in for a tongue-lashing. Heck, say you don’t like one of her outfits and it’s like you’re personally attacking some fans (I got some pretty nasty comments about my own looks and opinion after I dared write about her outfits from 2011 and – in perhaps a failed attempt at humour – rated them as like, dislike and meh).

I’ve seen it on Twitter, Facebook and fansites – there are those who question Kate, and those who fiercely defend her, no matter what (even if there’s no real criticism in the first place).

But is Kate worthy of such unquestioned love and adoration?

There are some who do openly point out Kate’s flaws. But do they love to hate Kate?

“I wouldn’t say I hate Kate, that’s much too strong a word. She just hasn’t done anything worthy of my respect yet,” @HMtheRedQueen told me via Twitter.

@RoyalForumMoron is another account that appears to take shots at Kate, but the writer says it’s not hatred or jealousy — it’s a case of looking into her past and understanding Kate is far from perfect.

“There are extremists in both camps” when it comes to love and hate, @RoyalForumMoron told me as we chatted via direct messages on Twitter.

“I really don’t hate her or anyone else, but what most logical people saw before the wedding were several red flags.

“The broad themes were she had problems with work ethic, waiting around for a man, being at their beck and call,” @RoyalForumMoron wrote. “Her values are questioned by some, including why a university-educated woman would choose to wait nine years for a man that showed no real commitment (all documented in the press), no charity work, except if able to offer booze and wear a tight outfit.”

@RoyalForumMoron notes “there are many documented stories of Prince William blowing her off, yet she waited.”

And, “She snagged him in a see through dress, so what does that say to a Jersey Shore generation, sexy outfits, no commitments will get you? Untold titles and riches.”

While some might say @RoyalForumMoron can be harsh, the writer said that’s not the case.

“My feed has many a jest in it! But my underlying theme is why is she the best? What has she achieved?”

And I think there is no harm in questioning this.

No doubt, this post will generate some hate for this Kate – as any time something is said about the duchess that isn’t favourable, die-hard fans come out and leave comments.

“You will notice the people that do like her attack the people that don’t while the people that don’t like her will attack the opinion,” @RoyalForumMoron said.

For the record, I did ask a few Kate lovers to comment on this story. None of them got back to me.

I’m wondering, though, in a world of celebrity obsession, is it OK to hate Kate? Is it OK to say, “She’s not as fabulous as she’s made out to be?” Or are we all so starved for the good news stories, that we look to stories about her and Prince William, and maybe the Royal Family to some extent, and say, “These people bring us good news. Don’t tarnish them.”

Am I saying I hate Kate? Far from it. I got up and watched the wedding. I went to Ottawa on Canada Day to see her and Prince William – and I will openly admit they are the reason we went to the 2011 event.

But I don’t think it should be sacrilegious to question why she has done so little on her own yet, and why she’s only taken on four patronages.

So, you tell me:

 

NOTE: Point taken – there was a commenter who noted my poll and headline should match. You’re right – I should have tried to do that and I didn’t. But thank you for commenting and taking part in the discussion.

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29 comments

  1. M | January 16, 2012 at 5:40 pm

    HER NAME IS NOT KATE. she Hates being called that. Call her Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. Kate or anything with Middleton involved is incorrect.

  2. Kate Schwass-Bueckert | January 16, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    Thank you for your comment, M. Actually, according to the official royal wedding website, under an FAQ section:

    “Should I use Kate or Catherine?

    “Miss Middleton uses both names equally, and she has never expressed a preference for either Catherine or Kate since her engagement to Prince William. Catherine is the name that Miss Middleton grew up with in her family, and Kate is the name that she tends to use in a work context.”

    http://www.officialroyalwedding2011.org/static/faqs

    So, I’m going to go with what the official website for their wedding tells me.

  3. A | January 16, 2012 at 6:09 pm

    Your poll options should match your headline. There’s a difference between hate and okay to criticize. Doubtful that you asked Kate fans to participate and even if you did no sane person would want to be quoted in the same ‘article’ as two of the biggest Kate haters on twitter who complain about what Kate does all day long yet they seem to spend countless hours on the internet spreading lies and hateful messages. Most of what they spew is based off of tabloid articles, hardly Pulitzer winning journalism. Alas everyone is entitled to their own opinions and delusion but at the end of the day last time I checked Kate was a human being and dating your boyfriend for 8 years shouldn’t cause hate unless the hater is ignorant of course.

  4. Kate Schwass-Bueckert | January 16, 2012 at 6:41 pm

    A, I’m sorry you don’t believe me that I contacted other Twitter users/bloggers who, in my opinion, have a great love of the Duchess of Cambridge. Perhaps because I explained what I wanted to do in this blog post (not article – they are different things), that’s the reason they didn’t respond. I was disappointed. But I do hope comments like yours will help balance out the argument for the other side. Thanks for taking the time to write out a thoughtful comment. I do appreciate it.

  5. Royalwhisper | January 16, 2012 at 8:07 pm

    Wonderful article. I’ve been waiting for someone to say what you’ve put in your commentary. I’ve been reading RoyalForumMoron’s tweets and blog and I find her honest,direct and insightful. Kate is not worthy of being called a rolemodel unless,it’s for women looking to cling to a rich boyfriend for years and finally bag a proposal from him. I believe if Kate had dated a Footballer and done the exact same thing she did with Prince William for the past nine years, she would never have been given the same accolades, she’d just be a Partygirl in the news, who finally got a proposal.

  6. Akasha2411 | January 16, 2012 at 9:28 pm

    I have to say I agree with Kate critiques.
    Although my real issue in this case lies more with the press I just don’t know why ppl adore her so much.
    Ok she’s not butt ugly, her hair is shiny but she’s not ‘bom chicka wow wowa’ either at least not to me.
    My main issue is the press, that only talks about her clothes not about her actions because there is nothing else to write on and that is getting annoying, real fast!
    She’s fluff and that won’t change so please dear press stop pushing her down our throats.

  7. RoyalKateDebate | January 17, 2012 at 10:36 am

    Hello, first of all I am a Kate ‘fan’ and would have loved to been asked to comment on this article (as I tweeted you). It’s unfortunate that you couldn’t find any fans to respond.

    Yes, I do think it’s absolutly fine to ‘hate’ Kate & I understand Royalforummoron’s view that her *percieved* lack of work and waiting around would make someone question her.

    Kate is not my role model, but I admire her for her ability to carry on with so much critisism (before the engagement). However I think it’s not for RoyalWhisper or anyone else to say ‘Kate is not worthy of being called a rolemodel’. If a young girl, like so many I see on twitter look up to Kate for her *percieved* style, elegance, caring nature etc. and take inspiration from that, what harm is there? Who’s right is it to say if she is a good role model? For the record, I have NEVER read any Kate fans saying they look up to her because she clung to a rich man for 9 years.

    My other point is should we really judge her for what she did in those 9 years? She wasn’t part of the RF, and didn’t know she’d be a princess, she was just a free citizen like the rest of us. Yes, jusdge her now by all means, but I beleive her past is not for us to judge. Many members of the RF have done much worse than what Kate has been accused of.

    The fact is her and William’s profiles are doing wonders for the royal family. I know RFM (who I chat to on twitter) thinks the press will turn against her, and I agree that they will because that’s what always happens. However, I don’t see someone who’s work shy etc., I honestly think she is doing her best to fulfill her role. As someone not too far from her age, I empathise with her because I know I would be just as nervous in interviews and I would be doing whatever the RF told me too.

    To conclude this lengthy comment, yes it’s perfectly fine to ‘hate’ her, and it’s equally fine to ‘love’ her. Maybe she hasn’t done anything to deserve either?

  8. tildax | January 17, 2012 at 1:17 pm

    First of all, this article lost its credibility by quoting the most disrespectful and spiteful Twitter account holders toward the Duchess of Cambridge. If you read through their tweets not only about Kate but their responses to other royal watchers, you will know what I mean. I would never get such people for my source. Totally disrespectful, biased, relentlessly destructive and altogether undeserving.

  9. Master Wooten | January 17, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    I think people should wait for “Kate” to wade into some controversy of a socio-political nature as does her new husband’s grandfather from time to time before sounding off. I mean if you’re gonna rag on a chick for her clothing or the fact that she bagged one of the world’s most eligible bachelors then you’re alerting the world to the fact that you’re “Legally Blonde.”

    Wait for her to suggest Britain ban the niqab, or outlaw the fox hunt or demand that the question in the referendum on Scottish independance pass a parliamentary “clarity test” before you rag on her.

    Anything else is no more worth the time than a row between the Spice Girls and Patsy&Adina of Absolutely Fabulous.

  10. DR | January 17, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    “She’s fluff and that won’t change so please dear press stop pushing her down our throats.” Hearing, watching, or reading news about her is voluntary, just as posting opinions about her is voluntary.

  11. DR | January 17, 2012 at 11:09 pm

    @RFM wrote. “Her values are questioned by some, including why a university-educated woman would choose to wait nine years for a man that showed no real commitment (all documented in the press), no charity work, except if able to offer booze and wear a tight outfit.” No charity work? Really? That’s contrary to what I’ve read in the press. As for waiting and doing very little for 9 yrs? Can’t imagine why anyone would think Kate, who’s in competition with 2 very ambitious siblings to take over the multi-million dollar family business, would be just twiddling her thumbs after graduation. Marrying William was not a sure thing, but competing for the future CEO position of that business sure is, which makes the label “workshy” illogical. As for “the man who showed no real commitment”…..ah, I’m lost for words.

    As for “why she’s only taken on four patronages,” please tell your readers how the other commoners-turned-royals have done initially with their patronages. Did Diana pick her 100+ charities within the 1st year of her marriage?

  12. Sarah | January 18, 2012 at 3:34 am

    I think the Kate-hate is unfounded. She hasn’t really done anything hate worthy. I don’t think she should be adored either. Right now there really isn’t any reason to have extreme opinions on her on either side of the spectrum. Nothing she’s done is amazingly wonderful, but nothing she’d done is awful either.

    Prince William seems smart and he’s dated her for many years, I’m sure if she was as devious or calculating as the online haters make her out to be, he would have seen through that in all the time they have been together. He married her, he’s made his choice and they’re together. No amount of nitpicking her and criticizing her is going to change that fact. I think it’s dumb to complain about it until she actually does something wrong.

    But I do have one bone to pick with Kate-haters. Why is it that her working for her parent’s business is not looked at as legitimate work? If it was a man working for his parent’s no one would blink an eye. A lot of my friends around her age are having trouble finding jobs and their parents will let them work for their company or use connections that way. Not a big deal.

  13. Marie | January 19, 2012 at 2:08 am

    One, Kate/ Catherine, is human like everyone on this planet with the luck of birth parents and opportunity on her side, and I dont believe any human is beyone reproach or criticism. Two, Im not sure how or why in this age of obsession with Celebrity and fame, there are only two allowable responses to someone who has gained some noteriety: hate or love. How can you feel either extremem for a person who is probably in most cases a complete stranger other than the public personae which has been carefully designed and fueld in order to build a brand (even a ‘Royal’ one) and hide the innate normalcy of just being human (and therefore flawed)? It’s not healthy to put any one peson on a pedestal. They will let you down because they’re just human. Having said all that, I dont believe she’s earned either public adulation or animosity. She is obviuosly still very new and and unexeperienced at this game and role. Give her 10 or 20 yrs and see what happens.

  14. Bob | January 19, 2012 at 3:41 am

    Who’s Kate?

    Seriously, you guys need to step into reality. She’s just some homely girl that got married to a jerkoff from some underserved “royal” (I use this term losely) family from a bygone era that has done absolutely nothing noteworthy.

    There are more important people in the world, for example, my taxi driver that took me to work today.

  15. The_One_And_True_Chad | January 19, 2012 at 4:21 am

    Roast them all, as in take your shots, not literally .

  16. cmc | January 19, 2012 at 7:06 am

    She’s another person who is currently in the spotlight, and makes people feel the “right” to hold her accountable for just about everything. However, it’s a decision she made long before the wedding day, knowing that the press was following her every move – whether she was currently dating William or not – pictures of her in bars and other locations, while speculating whether they were going to get back together was just fodder for the press.

    Some of her outfits are lovely, but that does not make her better or worse than I. I don’t have the funds to wear designer clothing, and my casuals don’t look as good as those she picks – but that’s no reason for me to dislike her.

    If a person has nothing better to do than live on the backs of those currently in the press, then best of luck to them. Hope they find someone else to follow once the attention on her has waned somewhat.

  17. Judy | January 19, 2012 at 2:09 pm

    I think Kate is fabulous…………give her time to adjust to her new way of life before expecting her to get so involved in charities etc. Good Lord, after all she is a newly wed!!

  18. Travis | January 19, 2012 at 3:42 pm

    She’s hot, other than that… I don’t really care.

  19. NorthernNurse | January 19, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    RoyalForumMoron is possibly the nastiest blog out there. The owner was kicked off several forums and now spews hatred at not only Kate and William but also other forum members.

    Royal Insight Forum is a balanced forum if people are interested. Venture with caution on Royal Gossip Forum. It strays towards libel/slander.

  20. Ilokid | January 19, 2012 at 9:00 pm

    Let’s face the reality of the situation. Catherine Middleton is merely the current brood mare for the odious Royal family, in much the same way that Diana Spencer was. This merely serves to promulgate the bloodline, and lessen, albeit slightly, the chances of total imbeciles being produced. At no time has she ever, or will ever, do anything on her volition that will serve the common good – all of her appearances are merely photo-ops designed entirely for the good of the family that she has married into.
    Please don’t put her on a pedestal, she is merely a decoration, akin to a Christmas tree ornament. Her sister, Pippa, has no such pretentions – she knows exactly what she is, a good-time party girl who is prepared to put it about for the benefit of mankind.

  21. Lee | May 19, 2012 at 12:10 pm

    Says who? Her 24/7 publicity team?

  22. Lee | May 19, 2012 at 12:13 pm

    Well, I’m sure you are a blast at parties, Sunshine.

  23. Lee | May 19, 2012 at 12:15 pm

    REAL royalty get degrees and do REAL work and we almost never hear about it. Take the Wittlesbachs….you may have heard of them…

  24. Lee | May 19, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    William is SMART? Yes, it must be great to do 14 activities a year, half of which were sporting events attended with a few drunken pals, to your old grandmother’s 500? Right, so smart and hard-working.

    I guess if one’s shallow, dumb mother neglects her children to go chasing after foreign party-boys in Paris, one gets a free ride the rest of their lives?

  25. Leslie Kenyon | July 29, 2012 at 11:26 am

    She wouldn’t be anyone special without waiting for William. Her looks are cute without the ton of make-up she wears, but not beautiful by any stretch. She’s somewhat intelligent but not brilliant. And she seems pretty lazy to me. I’m an attorney and have been a single mom since my husband’s death and involved in many civic, charitable groups. I would never wait for a man that long without making some contribution on my own. Now that she has staff to do her work, she just appears at obligations for her position. She is no way even remotely the woman Diana was.

  26. Karen | November 1, 2012 at 8:36 pm

    I don’t think she’s super great like Diana was but she’s not horrible. I just think the Kate-hate is jealousy and I think most of the women grew up loving Prince William and are jealous over the fact that he’s taken.

  27. Kate | November 3, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    I’m NOT a Kate fan in any way… Found her work ethics to be lacking for 10 years while she was on call for Prince William. In fact, I think she is quite manipulative and conniving. BTW, I am neither jealousy nor do I hate ( very strong emotion here) the girl. I could be her grandmother. I’m sure other people who are not overwhelmed by her, are not jealous nor hate her as well..They ( we) merely see another side to her that she has shown us through the years!

  28. J | November 6, 2012 at 8:52 am

    Well said.

  29. J | November 6, 2012 at 8:53 am

    We all know you lessen the chance of imbeciles by bringing the stable boy into the mix.

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